18: The Buddha and his Immediate Family – 631
birth to Prince Siddhattha. Mahā Pajāpatī Gotamī entrusted her own son to
the care of nurses and she took the responsibility of nursing and looking
after her nephew the Bodhisatta by feeding him with her own milk. Prince
Nanda was only two or three days younger, and about four finger breaths
shorter than Prince Siddhattha in height.
On the third day after the arrival of the Buddha in the royal city of
Kapilavatthu, King Suddhodana
made the five auspicious ceremonial rites and
rituals to be performed in honour of Prince Nanda:
1. The ceremony of the uncoiling of the youthful coiffure to make way for
another, befitting an heir to the throne (
kesa-vissajjana-maṅgala
).
2. The ceremony of placing around the forehead of the prince a gold
frontlet bearing the inscription Crown Prince (
paṭṭa-bandha-maṅgala
).
3. The ceremony of bestowing a residential palace on the Crown Prince
(
gharappavesana-maṅgala
).
4. The ceremony of his marriage to his cousin Princess Janapadakalyāṇī
(
āvāha-maṅgala
).
5. The ceremony of bestowing and erecting the royal white umbrella of
the Crown Prince (
chattussāpana-maṅgala
).
On that occasion the Buddha went to the royal palace and after teaching a
discourse on the virtues of meritorious deeds, as he wished to have Prince Nanda
ordained, he purposely gave his bowl to Nanda and left for the monastery.
Because he had exceedingly great respect for his elder brother, the Buddha,
Prince Nanda, dared not say a word about the bowl which was unexpectedly left
in his care, though he had in mind to request: “Exalted elder brother, may you
take back your bowl.” He had but to follow the Buddha up to the top of the stairs,
thinking that he would be relieved of the burden there, but the Buddha did not
do so.
Holding the bowl, he thus followed the Buddha to the foot of the stairway, but
he still did not take back the bowl. He had to follow him, much against his will,
thinking and hoping the bowl would be taken back and he eventually reached
the open space outside the palace. The Buddha continued on his way without
relieving him of the bowl. Prince Nanda, following unwillingly, wishing to turn
back, but his extreme respect kept him silent, and hoping against hope that the