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5. She should give to others whether they give her or not. That is, when
poor relatives come to her house, she should give them whether they
can afford to give or not.
6. She should sit well. That is, she should stand up first at the sight of her
parents-in-law and husband. It is not proper for her to remain sitting
when she should stand up.
7. She should eat well. That is, she should not eat before her parents-in-
law and husband but she should serve them and eat only after making
sure everybody has his or her food.
8. She should sleep well. That is, she should not sleep in her bed before her
parents-in-law and husband. She should sleep only after doing her
duties towards them.
9. She should serve the fire respectfully. That is, she should regard her
parents-in-laws and husband as a great mass of fire or a poisonous
serpent Nāga King and look at them respectfully. She should not look at
them disrespectfully by casting a side glance or frowning upon them.
10. She should worship the Devas in the house. That is, she should show
respect to her parents-in-law and husband, regarding them as the Devas
occupying the foremost or the most sacred place in the house.
These were the ten pieces of advice which Anāthapiṇḍika gave to his daughter
as did the merchant Dhanañjaya to his daughter Visākhā (see chapter 45b.2). He
also sent eight wise men as guarantors along with his daughter with these
instructions: “Whenever a problem crops up for my daughter Cūḷa Subhaddā
you must solve it lawfully.”
The day of her departure saw him giving alms lavishly to the Saṅgha headed by
the Buddha. Then he sent his daughter to the merchant Ugga’s house with great
pomp and ceremony as though he exhibited the magnificent fruition of the good
deeds which Cūḷa Subhaddā had done in her previous lives.
Arriving at Ugga city, she was welcomed by the merchant’s family and hosts of
the citizens. Like Visākhā, she entered the city standing in her chariot, and
impressing the people much with her glory and splendour. She accepted the
presents sent by the citizens and sent in return gifts appropriate to their