35c: More Stories about Wrong View – 1231
with 500 carts to do business. Anāthapiṇḍika called his daughter, Cūḷa Subhaddā,
and assigned a duty to her, saying: “Dear daughter, your would-be father-in-law
Ugga the merchant has come. Do all that is necessary for him.”
“Very well,” said Cūḷa Subhaddā and from the day of Ugga’s arrival, she
prepared and cooked the food personally for him. She put on flowers, perfumes
and unguents, etc. While the merchant was being fed, she got the bath-water
ready and after he had taken his bath, she personally supervised all the needful
for him, and all was done with respect.
Observing she had the character of a good housewife, the merchant Ugga was
pleased with Cūḷa Subhaddā. Then one day, while conversing cordially with
Anāthapiṇḍika, he reminded his friend saying: “Friend, when we were young we
made such and such a pledge to each other,” and then asked for Cūḷa Subhaddā
for his son. But Ugga was a heretic. So Anāthapiṇḍika did not make any
decision on his own but reported the matter to the Buddha, who seeing Ugga’s
former good deeds that would contribute to his attainment of Stream-entry
(
Sotāpatti-magga
) approved. He then discussed with his wife, Puññālakkhaṇa
Devī, and they agreed to his friend’s proposal. He fixed the date and arranged an
elaborate wedding ceremony, and when he sent Cūḷa Subhaddā away in
marriage, he called his daughter and gave ten pieces of advice which were the
same as those given to Visākhā by her father, Dhanañjaya.
My dear daughter, a woman who lives in the house of her parents-in-law:
1. She should not take the fire inside her house outside. That is, she should
not tell people in other houses about the faults of her parents-in-law and
husband.
2. She should not bring into her house the fire from outside. That is, when
the neighbours speak ill of her parents-in-law and husband, she should
not report it to them.
3. She should give only those who give back. That is, she should lend only
to those who punctually return what they have borrowed from her
house.
4. She should not give to those who do not give back. That is, she should
not give another loan to those who do not punctually return what they
have borrowed from her house.
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